The common trait of great

     We all would have heard stories of some great people. Mahatma Gandhi, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Rabindra Nath Tagore, Stephen Hawkins. The list goes on . With their strong will, fearlessness and ability to think differently, there have changed the course of history many times.
      They are our motivation, our inspiration, our ideals. We all like to become like them.
      The question is how so? What they all have done different in their lives that made them great? How are they better then an average human?
    You will say they are born to be great or deloped the required qualities. They are brave, courageous, kind, have farsightedness etc. etc.
      All this is cool. But some may be born with these, done may need ttheory’
p there qualities.
     The question goes more specific. How to devlop these qualities?
     Thinking about the lives of these people they may have different field of work. They may have brought different changes. But they have one thing in common.
      To understand that thing we need to have a look on a very interesting piece of study of human psychology.
Maslow’s need theory’
    Maslow was a researcher who researchers on different needs that can be present in human lives.
    He says all the needs of a human being can be categorized on five categories.

1. Physiological needs
    There are out basic needs that are essential for our survival. Our needs of food, water , air to breathe, shelter, clothing etc. fall under this category. There are the lowest level needs .

2. Safety needs
     When physiological needs are well gratified, we would like to have them for a long period. We would now need to have a stable life in which we can feel safe from the world. Our needs for regular income, peaceful society, fair system of law etc. came under this category.

3 Belongings needs
       Humans are social beings. We are not made to spend a lonely life. We need family and friends. We need to belong somewhere. Our needs a family, friends, a life partner. We may even feel need to attach to a religion. All this come under belongingness needs.

4. Esteem needs
       This is the need for appreciation and respect from others. It is what we call ‘satisfying our ego’. The concept of self respect or self esteem, prestige, status is evolved from this.

5. Self actualisation needs
        This is the highest order need. This represent the desire to improve ourselves. Actualizing our inner potentials. The desire to leave an imprint on the world. The desire to learn something new( curiosity)or to excel in something. Desire to make the world better .
       This need is the reason for the development of the human race.

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Maslow's need hierarchy

   
     Maslow has concluded 2 things from the theory. The categories follow a hierarchy starting from phonological needs to self actualisation.
     And fulfillment of needs of one level promotes the higher level needs. He has said that one cannot think of fulfillment of a need unless all previous level needs are fulfilled.
    
   Hmmm! Does it feels interesting to you? Try to think examples from your life keeping in mind the conclusions. 
    You will find out that this may not be true.
   It is proved that this hierarchy can be different for different people. A friend protecting his buddy from goons. Belongingness needs comes before safety needs.
      A soldier giving his life to protect the nation. A mother working overtime to give her child a good life. There are examples everywhere this hierarchy shifts.
    So, this theory is not so rigid. We can be not robot who can be programmed to follow such hierarchies. We make our own hierarchies from our free will.
     Coming back to put question what is common thing in all the great people? The answer is they give preference to the highest other need that is at the peak of pyramid , self actualisation .
      Think of any example.
   Mahatma Gandhi left his career in endless and position of great respect and dignity in South Africa to fight for freedom of his country.
     Steve Jobs didn’t complete his graduation rather preferred to work in his garage .
    Despite being paralyses Stephen Hawking became the most intelligent living mind on earth .
     Rabindra Nath Tagore left his family and dropped his collage to write poems. (and was rewarded noble prize in literature for it).
      You will find many more in history and also around you.
      The need to actualisation your true potential is the driving force necessary to achieve your objective.
     It is also the way to achieve true happiness ‘satisfaction’. The satisfaction of successfully achieving something, of making world a neither place of the coolest feeling you can have.
     It have meaning to your life as will. It makes like worthy. Self actualisation helps you to find your hidden talent and establish your place in this world.
    So the simple way to do something great, more importantly feel great in your heart is self actualisation.
     If you wanna be great, whenever there is a conflict between different needs choose self actualisation.
    The choice of course can be difficult and risky. But remember that ‘many a times it is not the destination but rather the journey that makes a person great’.
      Hope you liked the article. Thanks for reading. Have a eventful life.
    
   

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Papa – a simple life of great endeavor

       
      

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My family is quiet well off from the blessings of Krishna and of course Papa. We have everything we need and luxuries want. Just 2 hrs ago I was watching a movie on our Bravia Led tv. Just now I was playing Counter Strike condition zero on my DELL laptop. Now I am writing this blog on my Xperia Z1 smartphone.
         Papa has provided us with everything we need. From our basic needs to be costly luxuries.  But there was a time when my family was not so well off(much before I was born).
          Around half a century ago, in 1957 papa was born to an extremely poor mother (Amma – my grandmother).  It was the time only 9 years after the India Independence.  The circumstances of the country was not good. The economy is its in its initial stages. There is large scale unemployment.
         My grandfather owned a small tea shop in the small town of Arki situated in the country side of Himachal Pradesh. He was second born to Amma. Four followed in coming years. With the 5 siblings my father was grown up in the small town.  Despite the poverty my grandmother (Amma) imparted him best possible moral teachings possible.  Though she had only studied till 5th class,  she believes that education is as important as 2 time meals. Despite her poverty she admitted all her six children in the local primary school.(which will prove to be her greatest gift for the entire family).  Her moral teachings and unconditional love will not go to unawarded.
        My father joined school in 1963. Immediately he proved his talents and devotion to study in all subjects especially maths. He wanted to support his mother in every way. Soon he started gaining scholarships after scholarships (I have to hide my face when compared to him).  He was never dependent on others for his education. 
      It was not that easy. Lots of ups and downs came in his life. My father knows that he would also have to support family in some way.
There were many times they couldn’t able to afford 2 square meals. My father along with tau(his bigger brother) and Amma had to cut their stomach to be able to feed the younger once.
         My grandfather was not so good.  What I can say? He did not care for his family when they needed him the most. The income from the small tea shop was usually spent on his cigarettes or his love for  non veg. He is not in this world now. But memories he have left behind are not happy once.
       With such responsibility I don’t think any child would feel like continuing his education. But my father don’t let this stop him. Even the desire to change the circumstances of the family become the greatest motivation in his life.
      There were some very depressing time. Like one time he needed to purchase a practical file for his school. But grandmother has no money for it. He was told to submit the file next day only. He purchased 1 kilo of jaggery for 20 paise(1 rupee = 100 paise). He spent entire evening cutting it in shape of toffees and wrapped them in pieces of newspaper.  He went to market to sell them for 3 paise each. Till the dead at night he sold them all an earned around 45 paise. That was his first income.  He finally buied file for 35 praise and gave the rest to his mother.
        Such dedication I don’t think is possible for me.  I shall prefer not going to school the next day. But my father thinks entirely different. He believes that not submitting work on time will raise questions to your dedication. 
        When Papa reached 8th class the family shifted to a bigger town Bilaspur. My grandfather rented a small general store. Usually my father had to help in the store after the break. He had to usually miss periods after the break.( i always feel a little guilt when I bunk for hanging out with my friends). Despite of teacher’s complaints, my father study with full heart. Because of his hard work, he stood 4th in Himachal Board Exam of 8th class.
       When he passed matrix (10th class), an important decision was waiting for him. In India after 10th students have to choose from 3 disciplines – Humanities, Science Or Commerce.  My father wanted to take commerce. It was his dream.  But at that time Commerce was not offered at his school and of course he can’t afford to go in some big city.  So killing his dream he opted for Humanities and pursues BA (Bachelor Of Arts) in political science. That was hard time for him.  He always wanted to pursue Commerce. But he studied whatever he got with full day devotion for his family and topped in second year of college.
        2 months after the results he got the call that will change his life forever.  He was selected for a job in the government. He was really happy at that time. Completing his education he immediately joined the job and family shifted to Delhi.
         In the free time,  he decided to pursue his dream. He started studying commerce.  Without any tuition or coaching he passed the entrance test for ICWA ( bachelor degree in commerce) in the first attempt. (My sister has passed this test in 3rd attempt even after getting the best coaching available).
      On completing ICWA, he was promoted to the rank of the officer and everything changed forever.
      It may feel like a made up story. But it is the true story of my father. 25 years later he have 2 children (me and my elder sister). 
        Father has given us a life full of love,  dreams and luxuries.  He has tried to give us everything that he can’t get in his childhood. May be he is not Steve Jobs or Mahatma Gandhi but to us he is a man born for greatness and source of endless inspiration.
       Thank you papa for everything.  I promise one day you will be proud of me as I am proud of you.(it is one of my main inspiration for started blogging).
    Papa Achche(papa is best)
   Many many thanks to you also for reading. Enjoy your life but never forget what your parents have done for you.
      Have a blissful life